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Ask questions: insights from Megan and Allyson's groovy and eclectic Indianapolis wedding

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Megan and Allyson wanted a wedding filled with fun and color with a groove and eclectic vibe. The couple married at the The Nest Event Center in Indianapolis, with Megan's aunt officiating.

Their advice to wedding vendors serving LGBTQ+ weddings and couples: Ask questions.

“If you’re unsure of something, then ask the question,” they say. “Be open with LGBTQ+ couples. It makes us feel like you care about getting it right.”

Many wedding and event pros mistakenly feel that asking questions means showing signs of ignorance. However, when, if asked in the right way, doing so can often be a sign of respect.

Asking questions means you are not making assumptions about how members of a couple identify or what wedding traditions they would like to follow. It means admitting when you don’t understand something about their identity or community and being open to learning about it. That way, you can be the best possible collaborator you can be. Some important questions to ask right off the bat: What are your pronouns? What wedding title would you like to use (bride, groom, marrier, etc…) What would you like to call your wedding parties? What traditions are important to you and where do you want to mix it up? And of course, ask for clarification on anything you don’t understand. These questions will make it clear to an LGBTQ+ couple that your goal is to make them feel as comfortable and welcome as possible.

To learn more about how to authentically serve the LGBTQ+ community and become Certified LGBTQ+ Inclusive™, enroll in our LGBTQ+ Inclusive Certification Course now. 

Photographer: Tessa Tillett Robbins Photography | Venue: The Nest Event Center | Florist: The Marshmallow Monkey | DJ: DJ Iron Lion | Invitations: Greetings Island | Attire: Maggie Sottero purchased from Sophia's Bridal and TuxLillian West by Justin Alexander purchased from Sophia's Bridal and Tux | Jewelry: Andrews Jewelers (engagement/wedding rings); Jared The Galleria of Jewelry (wedding bands) |  Attendant Attire: Azazie | Videographer: TOMMY.K | Caterer: Sweet and Savory | Cake: Nothing Bundt Cakes


Molly Sprayregen